Category Archives: Parenting

By first understanding and working with your own feelings, you can set the stage for magical results with the very challenging people in your life! 1. Know your feelings – and how strong they may be – before you get into action with your challenging people. 2. Make behavior decisions that you will feel proud [...]
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What we Learned in Kindergarten In pre-school, where a big chunk of the curriculum revolves around sociability, you can hear the specific details of a social behavior weaving through the daily dialogue. Listen to the teacher: “Sit in your spot and put your hands in your lap. Wait until it is your turn to speak. Raise [...]
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As parents, educators and caregivers are we paying attention to whether our children are excludersOR the ‘excluded?’ Rejection shows up in many ways. Here are a few: Hurt in the words. Sarcasm in the voice. Behaviors that say, “You don’t belong.” “You are not wanted.” “You are not safe here.” Feelings of profound sadness. Isolation. The kids [...]
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Once overwhelm sets in and your child is melting down under a confusing to-do pile, it is can be a frantic challenge to dig her out and settle her down. Here are six pro-active strategies; so start now to see them really work! 1. Plan ahead. Shift gears before homework burn out sets in. We [...]
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For some children, the biggest homework problem they have to solve is the volume they have to manage. Following are six specific ‘jobs’ for parents that will help keep things moving when the work load is weighty. These tips are especially useful with ADHD, Asperger Syndrome, High Functioning Autism or LD issues. 1. Be your [...]
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To keep your child feeling calm and capable at homework time, it is important to think about who they are as an individual. A child who feels capable and successful is at his best as a student and a person. Emotionally intelligent parenting at homework time involves nurturing feelings of strong self worth when the [...]
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The words you use to state your rules supply important directions for how to get somewhere. When someone gives you driving directions, can you get there with: “To get to my house go west and turn right in about 15 minutes”? Too general. Too many possible choices. Vague. A well-stated rule is clear in its [...]
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When you are trying to set rules and limits, do you get caught in a cycle of repetition, nagging and exasperation? Your words seem meaningless, you hear yourself getting louder and mention of privileges or consequences is ignored. The problem may be classic and clear-cut ‘misbehavior’ by your challenging children who know how to work the [...]
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These simple single-syllable words: sad, mad, and glad, are the easy first emotion words for children to use in ‘feelings talk’. Then, as they grow, and their every day vocabulary expands, the important job for parents, educators and caregivers, is to help their kids develop the awareness and the more expansive words to be emotionally [...]
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When kids come home with A’s and B’s in reading writing and math, parents feel a sense of security that their children are building the skills that will help them succeed in life. Then there is another set of important skills, which help our kids get smarter about the emotions they feel and encounter on [...]
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